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Introduction | |
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Seeing the Problem | |
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How to Use The Grief Recovery Handbook | |
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Grief: A Neglected and Misunderstood Process | |
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Grief and Recovery | |
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Staying Open to Grief | |
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Grief Recovery: How Does It Work? | |
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An Incomplete Past May Doom the Future | |
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Compounding the Problem | |
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Confusion About Stages | |
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What About Anger? | |
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Common Responses | |
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Getting Over or Getting Complete | |
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When Is It Time to Begin to Recover? | |
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Suicide, Murder, AIDS, and Other Tragic Circumstances | |
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The "G" Word | |
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Survivor: Another Inaccurate Word | |
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There Is Nothing Wrong with You | |
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We Are Ill Prepared to Deal with Loss | |
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We're Taught How to Acquire Things, Not What to Do When We Lose Them | |
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We're Taught Myths About Dealing with Grief | |
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Participating in Your Own Recovery | |
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Loss of Trust | |
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Practice Makes Habits | |
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Others Are Ill Prepared to Help Us Deal with Loss | |
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They Don't Know What to Say | |
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They're Afraid of Our Feelings | |
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They Try to Change the Subject | |
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They Intellectualize | |
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They Don't Hear Us | |
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They Don't Want to Talk About Death | |
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Professional Distortions | |
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They Want Us to Keep Our Faith | |
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Academy Award Recovery | |
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Enshrine or Bedevil? | |
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We Want the Approval of Others | |
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"I'm Fine" Is Often a Lie | |
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We Begin to Experience a Massive Loss of Energy | |
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We Experience a Loss of Aliveness | |
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Preparing for Change: Starting to Recover | |
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Your First Choice: Choosing to Recover | |
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Who Is Responsible? | |
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Your Second Choice: Partnership or Working Alone | |
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Finding a Partner | |
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Setting the Guidelines | |
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Initial Partners Meeting | |
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Making Commitments | |
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First Homework Assignment | |
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Review Thoughts and Reminders | |
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Second Partners Meeting | |
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Identifying Short-Term Energy Relievers | |
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Short-Term Relief Doesn't Work | |
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Identifying Your Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors | |
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Second Homework Assignment | |
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Third Partners Meeting | |
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The Loss History Graph | |
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Compare and Minimize | |
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Loss History Graph Examples | |
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What Goes on the Loss History Graph | |
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Third Homework Assignment: Preparing Your Loss History Graph | |
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Time and Intensity | |
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Learning from Your Loss History Graph | |
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Fourth Partners Meeting | |
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Finding the Solution | |
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What Is Incompleteness? | |
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How to Identify What Is Incomplete | |
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Choosing a Loss to Complete | |
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More Help Choosing the First Loss to Work On and Questions about Other Losses | |
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Introducing the Relationship Graph | |
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The Relationship Graph Is Different from the Loss History Graph | |
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Completing Is Not Forgetting | |
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Accurate Memory Pictures: Your Part | |
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Truth Is the Key to Recovery | |
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Even Long Illnesses End in Unfinished Business | |
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Hopes, Dreams, and Expectations | |
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The Relationship Graph | |
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Fourth Homework Assignment: Making Your Relationship Graph | |
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Dawn of Memory-the Death of an Infant | |
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Fifth Partners Meeting | |
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Almost Home: Converting the Relationship Graph into Recovery Components | |
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Apologies | |
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Victims Have Difficulty with Apologies | |
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Forgiveness | |
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Significant Emotional Statements | |
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Fifth Homework Assignment: Putting It All Together | |
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Sixth Partners Meeting | |
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Moving from Discovery to Completion | |
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Final Homework Assignment: The Grief Recovery Completion Letter<sup><$$$></sup> | |
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Important Note | |
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Final Partners Meeting: Reading Your Letter | |
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What Does Completion Mean? | |
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Stuck on a Painful Image | |
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What About New Discoveries? Cole's Window Story | |
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More Help with Relationship Graphs and Completion Letters | |
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What Now? | |
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Cleanup Work | |
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More on Choices and Other Losses | |
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More on Choices-Which Loss to Work on First | |
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Start with Relationships You Remember | |
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Other First Choice Concerns: Hidden or Disguised Choices | |
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Guidelines for Working on Specific Losses | |
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Death or Absence of Parent from an Early Age | |
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Infant Loss and Infertility | |
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Alzheimer's-Dementia | |
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Growing Up in an Alcoholic or Otherwise Dysfunctional Home | |
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Unique Loss Graphing Situations: Faith, Career, Health, Moving | |
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Moving | |
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Miscellaneous Tips | |
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The Final Word | |
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The Grief Recovery Institute: Services and Programs | |
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Acknowledgments | |